Well my W and I had a talk. I told her I kind of know what she feels when she talks to the OM because I met someone who is going through the same thing we are. I told her when I talk to you it’s like I’m talking to her. I told her I can’t tell her to stop talking to the OM She has to decide when she is ready. Or if she is unwilling to stop. She asked if your sitch was like mine. (Your husband was having the affair) or like hers (you are having the affair) I told her that you were having the Affair and that was why we could help each other. I told her what you told me about wishing your husband would just say I know you are hurting and let me know how I can help but you need to work it out yourself. She told me that she missed her freedom that she went from being single to having a ready made family.(she was 32 when we met). Unlike your advice I should have left the room at that but I didn’t. I asked her if she liked playing pool. She told me she used to play it all the time. I then told her that maybe we could go play some games soon, just like on a date. No strings attached. I’d didn’t mean I would expect or get my hopes up for sex or anything. She kind of laughed and said it’s funny you would say that. That on one of the soaps she watches “Jessica” is getting a divorce even though she shouldn’t be... (She then quickly inputted not that I’m saying lets get divorced). But how Jessica is getting a divorce and how she does not see why she and her ex cannot still go out and do family things like vacations and stuff together. I guess I was letting down my guard and told her what really bothered me the most was not just that she felt she had to go to the OM to talk. But she had sex with him. She told me it was not just sex. I told her I know. It’s the intimate contact that I miss that we had. Well she is sleeping right Now and I need to go over her mother’s house to prune her hedges.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
