I have been reading your post and see you were married almost 30 years. I have been married 25 years. It is so hard to pick yourself up and detach. Good job on not sending the articles. You sound alot like me in the fact oh he is coming home I will clean up and look nice. My H finally notice yesterday when he came home (you will have to read my post to e get the full drama) that my hair is lnoger than it used to be. It has been this way for 3 months and he jsut noticed and I have saw him every week. That's how much he noticed....
Your H does need to take you youngest D and do things. I don't think they realize how fast they grow up and grow away from them. My boys don't like what their dad is doing and it has put a barrier up but then H still wants them to be close and doesn't understand why they don't come by and call as much. They do not agree with him.
I have to go to work but wanted to give you some support and to hang in there. It is tough being with someone all these years and having to go thru this who would have ever thought. WE WILL MAKE IT!!!!!
