Matilda and Jak, My W called me on Friday afternoon, letting me know that her tolerance for her job situation is getting lower. Her pattern is to stay until she can't take it anymore, versus looking for something else and making a smooth transition. I'm going to try to relax and accept that it's not going to be a perfect transition.
She let me know that she's appreciated my support with this. I want to send the message that she is more important than any short-term financial inconveniences. I need to make sure that I support her thru this transition, listen a great deal, and not put any additional stress on her. If any financial problems arise, approach it in a problem-solving manner versus worrying about what is beyond my control.
She also is taking a greater interest in being my dance partner. She wants me to ask her for help and to practice. She says that it makes her feel good, when I listen and validate her feedback. I'm at a skill level where I can incorporate what she says. Before, I was thinking of so many things, that her comments overwhelmed me.
Her sister and family stopped over yesterday for a brief visit. It was a wonderful time. We displayed our dancing skills, and taught the sister and her two children some basic steps. Her husband got a break and took a nap.
Her competition dance partner is stopping by today. She asked me to stick around, and "pick his brain" for dance tips.
I'm not worrying as much about her sleeping elsewhere behavior. I have a feeling that once she increases the positives in her work life, she won't feel a need to escape as much. I don't think the EA/PA (still not confirmed, but likely) is any serious threat to the M. I think some of her sleeping elsewhere behavior is simply sleeping on a friend's couch.
She kissed me on the forehead as she was leaving for the evening to meet some friends at a dance venue. I stayed home to watch "The Prince of Tides." I seem interested in watching and reading about wounded people and families, these days.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
