to me(IMO)telling someone how you feel is one of the keys to communication and in 12_51's case it seems that his wife needs to hear. He sounds like he needs to take action right away, she's already left.
If my husband all of a sudden decided that sex was the ultimate exspression of love and relationship and wanted to try to be with me, I'd be thrilled.
I do understand your frustration, and at times, my bitterness gets the best of me too.
I think Love and sex are two different things outside of marriage. In marriage it's like you can't have one without the other. I don't think it's the ultimate expression of love though (MO) and I don't understand how LD spouses can somehow separate the two and think it's ok to go weeks, months, years w/o. Especially when a partner is willing to help and being patient.
I'm going to read your post because I don't know you're story and I hope you don't feel that I'm judging - i'm going through stuff too in another boat right behind you. Nvraln
