I have been married for 24 yrs, as a couple we moved emotionaly appart from each other 11 yrs ago. I am a great believer in making things work but i am so unhappy. My husband is 9yrs older than me, we haven't had sex in the last 7 yrs although he has bought viagre. He is now 55, he is a bully in the fact that he never recognises anything i do and blames me, he always keeps saying ' your son', 'when are you going to pay'. He is so rude to people and seems to great pleasure in telling me how he has put someone down. Oh god this is too hard this is the first time i have spoken about my feelings....he has become an old man, he has never attempted to no or understand the demands of my job, he never speaks to me, he is a froma different culture( my mother always new it was doomed) I am paying for the mortgage, he has lost his job 4times and i have picked up the pieces. We are financialy screwed, I am drinking too much, he goes to bed at 9pm.If I leave he is screwed cos he is ill yet being with him is making me mentally ill. I will give a typical day like today - He has not spoken to me all day, I have asked him one or two things and the response was a nod or no or yes.........another typical day would be he just asks me questions........have u payed, when are u going to...
