That is perfect, that is what I will do. Yes, I saw as I was typing it that that is how it came across to him. I think I kind of knew at the time, but hadn't stopped and really thought about it. I admit, I was engaging in some "if it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander" behavior. He was telling me his page was no big deal basically and when I created mine, I thought, "Will he think that me having a page is no big deal?" I of course do have girlfriends on there but have never felt the need to be a part of that community. Seems like it's for singles and teenagers, from my perspective, everything trying to prove how cool they are. So, a part of me was like, "OK, yes, he wants to sell his art and portray himself as an artist, that is fine and dandy. (This is why he said he made the page "less personal" and only has one photo of me and the kids in there amongst 26 images of him and it was the only one WITHOUT a caption of any kind. It hurt my feelings. I had recently noticed the same thing at his work and said that he has more pictures of seals on his desktop screensaver than he does of his wife.) I thought, "So if *I* have a page, would he allow me to link to his page (be one of his "friends") and then anyone could click on my page and see me and him in all these family pics, changing diapers, baking cookies, etc? I was mad at the way he seemed to be portraying himself as this "goth guy". I know that's probably not healthy to even give a crap about, but it bugged me. So I guess when I made my page, sure, I tried to pick photos that showed me in an attractive light. I do have a sexy side. I may be a mom, but I can look halfway hot on my good days! The whole situation with the past month+ has just been a blow and I feel like I'm grappling a bit for my position. Something to avoid, I know. I still have not asked him to link our pages (as "friends"). I can pretty well guess what he will say, but oh well, I guess I can't do anything about it and making a big deal out of it serves no purpose.
I am SOOO glad that after seeing the naked belly pic was gone that he gave me the passwords. Things usually work like that. When *I* give, he usually is able to give *back*. He is rarely the FIRST one to give though. I am at a place now where I do not intend on dragging him through the mud for the Pam emails. I really want to PUT ALL OF THE PAST BEHIND US. Again, Lin, your post about amnesty and forgiveness sounds REALLY GOOD to me. I HOPE that if I suggest this, that he will take me up on it. Then we can work on building sexual intimacy to a level we are both happy with and resolve our little daily conflicts and miscommunications. (Lots of scorekeeping and grudge holding going on, I know this.)
The whole situation with the past month+ has just been a blow and I feel like I'm grappling a bit for my position. Something to avoid, I know. I still have not asked him to link our pages (as "friends"). I can pretty well guess what he will say, but oh well, I guess I can't do anything about it and making a big deal out of it serves no purpose.
