Thank you for responding. I know that I have made mistakes. That happened with the passwords the DAY AFTER finding out (March 30th) and I only did that out of desperation to see if she (OW) had replied back to our communication in the wee hours of the morning. I was at home with my kids. He was at work. Our computer wasn't working because he ripped the mouse out of the wall. I called Missy up and gave her the password to see if she could get on and no, she couldn't. He had changed them. She never accessed them after that and he actually called her late that day from work to try and get advice and share his side of the story. She has been my best friend since 4th grade, so I know it's not healthy to involve someone else in what's going on with you personally, but I have confided in her more than I have my local friends because I've known her longer and she has known Joey and our issues since day 1. She loves him like a brother but finds him infuriating at times (as he does her) in his way of never admitting when he is right and being so stubborn. He is the master at turning a situation around so that it is all your fault. I have not talked to her at all since my weekend at her house. We actually have plans (Joey, me, Missy and her fiancee Joe) to go to a concert together next weekend and I know he intends on keeping the plans because he called his mom to confirm her help with babysitting that night.
I am putting more sexual details on this board since I feel a little weird being open about certain aspects of this on the Newcomers board. I am hoping people with more experience with sexual issues can help us since some of it is standard marriage stuff and some of it, I can't explain myself and is sexually related.
One of my main reasons for wanting to fix things is to give my kids a healthy upbringing. I know that things are tumultuous now, and try as we might to keep it from them, our 4-year old is no dummy. I really want to fix things.
Thanks for your advice, I know I need the perspective of another. That is why I'm here.
