I just posted to tyler about killing the little "boy" inside us men - but I think the same needs to be done in our venus counterparts sometimes as well.
I look at my W - an ACOA who was very protective of herself - or that inner child. In the past year or so - and through out MC (although I think she could use some good IC) - both of us have released that insecure inner child as best we could - finding the Alpha MAN for me - and the caring, sensitive, feminine but strong woman for her.
In that lies the importance of us leading - and recognizing - without a boyish, needed face their feminity they display. That can perhaps invoke that "insecure" side without us even realizing it. I'll tell you when my W "makes" herself up, I'll acknoledge with a look and sly grin from across the room - when she says "WHAT", I won't say anything. A couple minutes later, I'll walk over, when she isn't looking and kiss her neck, breathe and tell her she looks absolutely stunning - can we stay in tonight.
Anyway, great nugget from OTB - and from Sweden so he must know something...
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
