Where'd you learn that stuff. That puts things in an entirely new perspective and makes perfect sense.
This whole process of becoming feminine started and progressed extremely slowly. Bought makeup through an infomercial. When she gave it away to her friend and her friend (who is a cosmetologist) said she got more compliments on her makeup than any other makeup, she bought more for herself.
About a month ago I went to pick her up after she had spent the weekend with her friend. She was wearing this very colorful top and I was a bit shocked for it. I repeatedly told her how beautiful she was in it. Turns out she had spilled wine on her own top and had borrowed it from her friend. A few weeks later I find her trying on something very colorful and way outside of her normal dress. I immediately poured on the compliments lavishly. She has dressed that way several times since then.
Your probably right most women go through this at an early age. Maybe it is helpful that we have an 18 year old we take care of now.
Funny thing is, and thinking like a man, my wife has the body that other women always say wow wish I was that thin. I hear it all the time. But I guess that doesn't matter if what she is feeling inside is fear and insecurity.
I've also noticed something else. Whereas many months ago her entire focus was about becoming some powerful business woman who needed nobody, now she seems to be slowly sliding into the role of supporting me and allowing me to be the decision maker. Months ago she was starting her own real estate investing business. Now it is ours and she is relying on my knowledge rather than insisting she do it all herself.
She defends me with extreme vigor. Last night at dinner she let me know how badly she wanted to go let a couple of guys have it who she felt were being disrespectful to me. I know that sounds pretty funny huh. But don't think of it in the sense of a woman physically defending her man. I am a pretty high ranking black belt and they are black belts on her level. She knows my hands are tied and I would look like a terrible bully if I did anything at all to them. But she could do it. Not that either she or I would do a thing at all. Just her frustrations coming through and her voicing them privately to me. But I was amazed to hear the defensive instinct come out. Not sure how to process it. Who is she being at that moment? Does it matter?
Yes, I definetely see the vulnerability in her, the little girl. Her trying to figure out who she is. I do see her on shaky and uncertain ground. And I now more than ever see how my support lifts her up and guides her on hte right track, the track of becoming a woman.
She has tried on a lot of personas over the last couple years. I hope this one sticks.
