Reading your both of your comments, sigh and torn, made me realize I was not alone. I just posted Out of Control just over an hour ago.
I am not in the same situation but can relate. It is interesting to read the adice and comments and I appreciate the honesty on both sides. I can tell you from my situation a lot of times you just can't explain why. I can tell you for awhile I thought maybe I was a sex addict to explain my behavior...I don't know. I am certainly willing to add my view point and maybe give some insightful pariticipation.
I tend to think lately that you either have the magic or you don't to want to make it work. Maybe I am in defensive mode. I can tell you in my indescretions I was able to be a person that I couldn't be with my wife. Not someone different but the person I really was. I don't know why I could tell and do things with others than with my closest friend. It is just that we couldn't talk on that level. Different situation I know, but certainly a fact. I will participate more if you welcome my comments.
