Could Use Some Input Over here

[RedHeadWife]

Ok, guys, I know I probably should put this over in infidelity, etc., but like I've said before, I like you all over here.

As I said above, H has now left for his year deployment. He will be back for a month mid-tour.

Things were going so very well for us and I am trying to be very confident and positive about things.

I guess I just need either a kick in the a$$ from you all or just some ideas on how to continue dealing w/ the EA fall out. Of course, I still get a sick feeling in my stomach that he's emailing someone he shouldn't be. He told me his "friend" had been "taken care of," but the distrust and hurt still lingers. I also still have my doubts about the other girl that he worked with and any contact he may continue to have w/ her.

I guess I know what I have to do -- just stay positive, stay upbeat, continue to support him emotionally, sending cards, etc. I've now sold his truck which he failed to do before he left and I'm dealing w/ all of that. I'm now taking care of the water heater b/c the pilot light kept going out and he failed to take care of that. And I'm trying really hard not to be resentful of the things he really should/could have taken care of before he left and didn't.

I guess I just need a pick-me-up/kick in the rear/advice on "getting over" the sick feeling in my gut about the EA's. I guess I chose to stay and now I need to just deal w/ my emotions, huh?