I bought the book, The Secret, in the hopes of getting some inspiration and am finding it very interesting, if somewhat repetitive. I guess, sometimes we need to repeat positive thoughts over and over again in order for them to 'stick' and grow into positive actions, and positive outcomes. The idea of the Law of Attraction does make sense, especially in the DB context.
Has anyone else read the book, or watched the movie? I also have The Purpose Driven Life, which I haven't actually started reading yet, but will do so soon.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It's not rocket science - if you think positive, you will attract positive. If you think negative, you will attract negative.
Thanks, but I would rather spend my money on a more enlighting book than that.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I've been influenced a lot by these books. They're not rocket science, but I think the fundamental laws of life are simple. Most definitely they have helped me find peace in my sitch. I believe life is not a zero-sum game--there is abundance for all of us. If we don't look for it, how will we ever find it? What we focus on expands...it's really true. Enjoy!
Fundamental truths are usually simple, but our minds and way of thinking tends to make events in our lives more complicated than it needs be. So, I read these books in search of inspiration ... something to motivate my thoughts into a more positive process. They are just different ways of saying the same thing, and a new reminder of what I should be doing, rather than freaking out, and living in fear. The scriptures tend to do the same thing for me too - gives me a sense of peace, and the courage to move forward.
Rocket science? No! A simple message of universal truth? Definitely, yes! IMHO!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Although it usually seems like the same old, same old, it usually takes us a few reminders to remember and get things straight. That's why I like the simple, repeats, they refocus us when things are out of control.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I am off on a trip to my old city. It's a 12-hour drive which includes a ferry trip (1.5 hours), a big city with awful traffic, a mountain pass that can be brutal, and then some prairie land. Should be interesting. My H will be away on business for the next 2 weeks, so my D14 and S19 (soon to be S20) will be on their own while I am away. I am hoping to see my D19 (who is now about 3 months pregnant) while in the old city, and spend Mother's Day with her. I am also hoping to convince her to leave her idiot BF, and come home (I am not too hopeful, but one can only try). I am also excited to be seeing some good friends, and my nieces and nephews.
I want to be home in time for my son's 20th birthday on May 22 (his twin sister was here last year, while he was away for their birthday. At least I will see her on this trip). I don't like being away from home too long, and this is the longest I have been away on my own. I am going to make sure I get to see as many people as possible, and play tourist while there, so I don't get homesick too quickly. I will take lots of pics, and even take my watercolour paints and stop along the way to sketch and paint a little. I am hoping this will be a time to strengthen my independence, find a little of my passion in life, and detach from H (even if lovingly) because I still feel he is distant, emotionally, and not too terribly into me (I feel like a bomb is going off any time, and I want to be prepared, mentally, for that possibility. Not to say that I want to live my life constantly walking on eggshells waiting for the explosion, but to know that no matter what, I will be okay, and not be devastated by the loss of my M because there is so much more to life than just being a wife).
I am whaffling on somewhat, but I have been doing a lot of thinking, praying, and sending positive messages into the cosmos (per The Secret instructions). I do realise that I deserve as good as anyone else has, and that I control my own actions and choices. Right now, I choose to be calm, loving (to H, children, friends, other family), and seeking the path that I must take that will enable me to be the best BM possible. I always feel as if I am selling myself short, betraying the true me, and abandoning the girl I once was, that there is something I should be doing, and not fulfilling my full potential. It all comes down to self-awareness, self-confidence, and one's self-esteem. We sometimes have too much rubbish in the way of reaching our true potential, and it clouds the path. I think fear is what keeps many of us from moving forward. I am trying really hard to be courageous - I used to be one of those fearless people, who dared to do things, was always laughing, risking love, seeking adventure, passionate about things, idealistic, had a positive outlook on life, expecting things to work out, no matter what. I lost that person somewhere along the way in this M. I think she is buried under a lot of old pain, disappointments, and fear.
Time to dig out, I think.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Good luck on your trip. I think the trip will do you lots of good. Personally I find that when I spend time away it tends to clear up my priorities a little. After a trip I am more committed to what I feel is right. There does seem to be more positive forces out there for me these last few weeks. I will try to send some your way.
Hopefully this time out will have a positive affect on your H. Good luck with the D with IBF. Some days you wish you can show them previews like at the movies. However, I don't even know then if they would believe you. Personally, I like driving trips, it gives me a sense of freedom. Have a good time.
