I just wanted to say you are not alone, far from it.
I am the same as your wife. I had 4 affairs (3 included sex, 1 no sex). This was 1.5 years ago (When I told my H).
It is tough for me to give you any advice...considering you are on the other side of the fence. The one you should be really talking to is my H to be honest. I can't really say I relate to what you are going through, but I can relate to what I have seen from my H.
Has you W told you or MC why is she having the A's? That is the first thing you really need to find out.
Did anything happen 2 years ago in your wife's life?
How was the first 8 years of your M?
Let's go under the assumption these are the only 4. In such a small time period, seems strange that for 8 years she was fine then all of the sudden...?
If there is anything you want to ask me, feel free. I will try not to be too blunt.
