Yoyo, Matilda, and Jak, Thanks for your comments, insight, and pep talks. It helps to know you are tracking my situation, are thinking about me, and want the best for me. You are all in my thoughts too.
I do have my Friday night dance venue. I'm eager to try out a new combination I learned in dance class this week. I have my yoga class on Saturday. I'm working thru a collection of short stories called "Bad Haircut, by Tom Perrotta. It's about growing-up in the seventies. It's bringing back some happy memories of things I haven't thought about in a long time.
My W continues with her higher cleaning standards. She flips-out if there is any whiff of cat litter odor. It's helped me to be more consistent at helping-out around the house with weekly maintenance chores.
She also is in a home improvement mode. She replaced the doorknob on the guest room door (where I'm currently sleeping). It does look better versus the old 50 year old one. She's looking forward to me being gone in two weeks, so she can work on the hardwood floors. I think the projects give her something meaningful to work on, and a brighter, cleaner space makes her life feel less chaotic.
She is getting closer to making a job change. She is now talking about giving her boss notice that she will be leaving in a matter of months. She makes 25K, and has a graduate degree, and a wealth of experience in the business and social services field, so should not have much trouble upgrading to a better suited position. I'm trying to let this process play itself out, rather than take over the job hunting for her.
She continues with her pattern of sleeping elsewhere. It was 10X in April.
I went to the library directly after work on Wednesday night, without telling her. I'm experimenting with the mystery that some DBers talk about. After I was running about an hour later than usual, I got two calls on my cell phone. She doesn't want me to stray too far.
I'm looking forward to the weekend, unless she talks me into going to another family obligation--her neice and nephew's piano recital. I've told her I'm not going since I have my own family trip in two weeks. I think it's more important to take care of myself at this time, versus being loyal to my W regarding visiting her family.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
