It's interesting to me that in the long while that I've been on this BB there has not been a single exception to the rule that a LDH will not feel the desire to become fully sexual or join a BB like this until his HDW is basically out the door and no longer wanting him. OTOH, quite a few LDW come here before things get quite so out of hand. It's so clear to me that the "solution" to the problem is not to try to get these guys to want to f*ck the "madonna". The solution is simply that the HDW have to start acting like "whores" , not really "whores" but something more like "b*tches". Some men just get turned on by the drama of having their *ss kicked to the curb or the thought of their wife with another man. I think it's really reflective of low self esteem as in "She doesn't want me so she must be better than me therefore I want her" or "Other men want her so she must be hot so I want her too.".. It's weird how it can simultaneously be true that people are more attracted to people who aren't attracted to them for validation reasons but also more aroused by being around people who are aroused by them for straight-forward sexual-social interaction reasons. Another good reason why looking for validation s*cks if you actually want to have hot sex.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
