The sad thing is I have set those consequences before. the last time this happened I found out about the affair while we were in counseling working on us and supposedly making good progress. Only to find out she was not only seeing other guy, but seeing him right before and after meeting with counselor (approx 6 mos ago).
I told her that this was it, but continued working on us and thought we had made progress. I told her then, again, if she cheated again, I was done. told her if she ever got to the point of considering it to simply raise her hand, tell me she is unhappy so that we can do something about it.
She did not do that. She had been acting perfectly normal, but the affair was still going on (just found out).
Now she is crying daily again, saying how sorry she is, saying the affair is really over, and that this time she is really going to change and be the good Christian mom and wife she should be. The sad thing is I find myself falling for it again and feeling sorry for her.
Am I crazy? Should she get another chance? One minute I think yes, this is worth working on. The next, I am saying I need to make a stand and finally end this.
