My husband will get home today so I'll explain the situation to him. It will be interesting to hear his solution. My guess is he'll tell me to shred it and tell her not to get me in the middle of anything like that again.
I would meet up with her, but since she lives far away now, I don't see her too often. Chances are this card would get lost in my paper basket in the cupboard and tossed out while I'm cleaning before I see her again in person....
I'm thinking maybe I should just be brave and tell her what I think... that while this guy is with his wife, I can't pass the card to him, and I think she should have nothing to do with him since their relationship crossed the line beyond friendship. She'll probably tell me it's okay now because they are only friends. But I need to point out that's still wrong. Even if the relationship was never more than talking and friendship, it's wrong to do anything that might cause potential problems with his marriage, or make his wife feel uncomfortable or jealous. She wouldn't know how innocent or involved the realtionship was, and putting his wife in that position is wrong. It's kind of mind boggling to me how easily people can do things to others, they would never want done to themselves.
I feel kind of silly agonizing over this dumb card. With so many other problems this seems trivial....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
