My sitch is similar to yours. I know everytime I put a demand on my W it blew up in my face and made our sitch worse off. You may not want to make any demands at this point. I know this is a rough time and that you just want it to end. You also don't want to do anything rash and make things worse off. Keep coming to this board to vent and get support. This is a crazy season for all our lives and in the end we will be better people for it.
Workaholics Wife, Your perspective and suggestions are valuable to alot of us out here. Just from what you posted on this thread you seem to be in my W shoes, accept that you are at this site which tells me you want your M to work. That is not the case with my w at this point. Please chime in on my thread and let me know how badly I am screwing up.