The reason his Dr. said "the plumbing IS working" is that he can get and maintain an erection....so he would not prescribe anything.
However, because my H has brought Viagra up again recently...I'm all for him trying anything that might even give him a mental boost. I kind of figure even if the pill itself doesn't do anything for him, mentally he might think it is...and THAT would have an effect, thereby building confidence in that area KWIM?
FWIW...not long after I found out about his infidelity I did find a bottle of Viagra. He had gotten it online through one of those websites when we were dating, because his Dr. wouldn't prescribe it and he wanted to see if it would help. Unfortunately it did cause a bit of a meltdown in me (it was a trigger when I found it...and a few pills were missing and I NEVER received the benefit). He told me he tried them and they had no effect and that he'd given one or two away (I'll never know if that's really true or not)...but the majority of the bottle was still there and waaaaaaaay out of date, so I threw it away.
When he brought it up again I told him "go right ahead, lets give it a try" but that I was glad he was talking to me about it so I wouldn't stumble across a bottle again and trigger again like I had. I realize guys don't generally talk about prescriptions like this, but considering our past...I'm really glad he didn't just buy it, try it, and not tell me...and then have me come across the pills again LOL.
