Whore/Madonna

[Heywyre]

Yes, my H is ALL about logic - sometimes waaaaaay too much. But he can't fight it anymore than yours can.

So now that I know that "button" it will be easier to push in the future. Part of the problem, like the C said, was that we have been putting too much attention on him, which I felt initially was needed, however now it is unbalanced and being that my H is a "libra" we need to get him back to the balanced stage. I find he is very hard to deal with when he is just a little off to one side.

One of the things (and I keep remembering them bit by bit) last night was he started saying things like "I can totally understand everything about what you do at work but you don't understand what it is like to do what I do" (he's a truck driver - 53 footer). And he's right, I don't have any idea of what its like, I have never done it and I don't care to. However, I make a point of trying to be interested in what he does, even when I hear the same stories over and over. When he said that I agreed with him, but then I said "I like to cook, you don't understand that either, does that make you right and me wrong" - deflated once again.

I appreciate all the advice you have given me GEL but the one thing I used, and will continue to use, is the logic. Why didn't I think of that earlier, being the type of person he is? Probably because I wanted him to see things "my" way, more analytical but that's not who he is. I never thought fighting fire with fire actually worked, but this was a perfect example of how it DOES work. I caught him at his own game and, like you said, it was pretty hard to disagree with logic