Very good Heywyre, you're a sharp cookie! I've found with my H that empathy goes a long way, he's not used to it...but it's effective to attempt to put myself in his shoes.
I cannot tell you how many times (when he's gotten defensive) that I have taken the heat off by saying..."this isn't about YOU, it's about US...this is OUR issue."
I was fairly confident he was going to see sense because for men like ours...it's really tough to fight logic.
