The ONLY times my H has ever become aroused (that I'm aware of) have been when I have manually made that happen, or when he has been doing something lately to initiate sex.
He's never gotten an erection by doing ANY of the following:
Snuggling or spooning and in the five and a half years I've known him he's NEVER had one in the morning. I have honestly never seen him with one, or even a semi that we didn't work to create.
GEL
That's a pretty good indication that the plumbing's NOT working. Viagra (or better yet, Cialis... less side effects and 24-36 hours of potential playtime!) may be just the thing for him. (Well, that and the counseling he's been getting)
Since I got on antidepressants, I've encountered the same thing... I can get an erection sometimes, but it takes a lot of work and any distraction at all causes it to instantly deflate. Before I started on ED medication, I was afraid to start anything or even to touch her; I thought that getting her revved up and leaving her hanging would make her more frustrated than not starting anything at all. Of course that's a recipe for disaster if it goes on too long.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
