emotionally drained

[drbty]

Situation is WAW left and divorced me 8 months ago. I was very devastated as so many others. It was very fast, left on Thursday filed on Monday and 30 days later we were divorced. From the start she said some wierd things which led me to believe she was very confused and acting too fast. I did the normal begged, pleased cried, about 2 months ago i finally pulled myself together and have began steps of moving foward

Did I write this? Check the dates on my sig. Trust me, I can relate to what you're going through.

For the first time, just this week, my X has really acknowledged some of her part in the demise of our marriage. I was overwhelmingly at fault, and she used that to justify her actions. But both of us could have handled things better.

The confusion we go through can be horrible. Everything from wondering if there's hope to wondering if we even want a reconciliation. I'm facing a bit of that now. Do I dare think of restoration, only to be dissapointed and go through so much hurt again.

Ill hang there its just the confusion that i get from her but i have to realize i allow to happen.

She says its not that she doesnt want to, its just we argue when we are together and honestly i dont argue with her anymore.

i tell her to calm down and she just cant control herself and starts crying. it breaks my heart but i dont know what i can do.

i told her that she needed to take responsibilty for her actions and i told her i wanted her to know that i never gave up on us but like i said everytime we talk she cries

i dont understand it at all. i dont understand why all the calls and the emotions but wont take the steps we need to fix things.

anyway just very frustrated tonight. srry thanks for all the advice i need it thanks again and wish i could give u more feed back. just starting this and not sure what to say.

i too would not wish this on anybody.

I wonder if you are being too defensive. I was. She may interpret that as arguing your position. Would it help to minimize your responses and just let her vent? Without trying to control what she should think or say? Instead of proposing a solution, just LISTEN?

We as men tend to want to fix things. We see a problem, analyze it, and take action to "fix" it. Heck-if-I-know what a woman is thinking.

Is there another man in the picture?