How long has the EA been going on? I found N Pic’s of them 1 mo. ago.
How long have you been considering an ultimatum?
From reading mesg. Bds I found out I was making the common Mistakes of telling her how much I love her, asking for goodnight kisses ECT. I have since learned that I need to give her space so that is what I have been doing. I have been trying to get her to go out on the town with me for the last year but things always came up with her. So this week I decided I’m going out anyway and called my daughter and her boyfriend and we are going to shoot some pool this Friday. I didn’t ask my wife to go. I haven’t been out in so long I was thinking I’ll get the layout of the place and then maybe ask my wife if she would like to go out (on a date) and shoot some pool. She does not call or talk to him in front o me but like other mistakes I did check phone records. I am not going to look again for awhile because I’d rater not know.
What is the quality of your R with your W?
Married 18 years. I have 1D 25 and 1D 23 from previous marriage. We have 1S 10. We have not had sex for the last year. She was going through meno and When ever I brought it up she would get upset so I jus attributed it to her hormones. Besides that we hardly fight. If I say something that upsets her and she starts to yell I back off.
Has she stated that she wants a D?
She said she does not know what she wants. She wants to find out why she is not happy. She is working with her councilor to try to find out when in our marriage she started being unhappy.
Do you know what she's unhappy about?
No
What problems is she running away from?
This OM (he old BF) hurt he really bad before we got married. Thinking back I don’t think she has ever really opened up to me because she didn’t want to be hurt again.
Have you diligently been DB, and working at improving your personal relationships, and doing things that you enjoy?
Just started.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
