His emails are proof that his relationship with this other woman is far more familiar than he should be with her.
You need to politely tell him that his familiarity concerns you and that it is hurting you. Don't make demands.
In the mean time, you need to demonstrate (to him) propriety regarding your marriage and what you discuss with your friends. You need to also be completely transparent to him in your dealings with others. This is very important, and you need to start now. Make CERTAIN that you don't flirt with anyone, even in small ways.
My impression of your hubby is that he is on the cusp of making a major mistake. He is feeling entitled from his resentment regarding the past. I am not for a moment saying that he is right, I am just telling you what I am observing. Right now, your option is simple; Do you want to be married or do you want to be right?
You've got to create a safe place for him to land because he is flying blind.
Have you implemented any of my previous suggestions?
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
