But it was one of those unique situations where we were introduced at work because we both happened to be going through the exact same situation. Both of us had just had the divorce bomb dropped on us that same month and we were completely devistated. We also learned that we lived only a block away from each other.... so, during an extremely difficult time we became very close friends and spent a lot of time together. We supported each other, met other friends in separation and divorce and GALed together... I'd try to convince her to DB and take the time to heal and wait until the divorce was final before she dated, but she just seemed to be drowning and latched onto numerous men.
I don't think she's necessarily a bad person, just extremely weak and needy, and I think her husband's MLC threw her into her own MLC. Fortunately she's no longer sleeping with every guy she meets (she finally got over that!).
But you are right about the different moral values. Even though I love meeting people and am extremely friendly (all my friends used me as "bait" to meet guys!), I have very firm boundries and believe that a marriage isn't over until it's finalized, but I've discovered that doesn't seem to be the norm...
I do have plenty of friends with great moral values, and I am spending more and more time with them now that I'm a "married woman" again, but it seems like during the divorce I spent a great deal of time with a small group of friends who are going through the crazyness of divorce and their morals have definitely been challenged. It was a real eye-opener for me to listen and observe the whole thing.
So.... with this card... should I shred it, or ignore my friend and send it back to her?
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
