As for 2-3 times a month being normal, I don't accept that. That's what has happened in our society because folks are worn out working 2 jobs and caring for kids, jobs, and keeping up with the joneses, and watching too much TV. Perhaps that's why there are so many affairs and broken marriages these days... (just my opinion, I have it on authority that everybody has one
I'm not sure if you were responding to me or not on this...but if you were. I didn't say once a month was "normal" I said it was regular...there's a difference. Having a regular sex-life simply means you have it at fairly regular intervals...whether it's once a week, twice a week, three times a day....whatever. It once a week still may not be enough for you...but it IS a regular sex-life. Heck, for that matter....4 times a year is a regular sex life if it's done quarterly LOL. Is it satisfactory...no.
In my situation we've gone from 1-3 times per year (yes that little) to a couple times a month now. For us, that's a HUGE improvement!!!
In your situation I imagine that having sex once a week or so would be perfectly fine for you....IF your H pursued you. You might still like to have it more often (can't deny that), but if he were pursuing you that would be meeting other needs of yours as well which would make you feel more loved all around.
