I will give you my perspective on the Whore/Madonna thingee, whether you like it or not - lol
Since I "discovered" that is what my H has (and I am 99.99% sure of it) it has made a WHOLE lot of difference as to how I view it. I don't condone what he did by any stretch of the imagination. However, I kind of look at it differently.
For instance, when I found out my H was calling/seeing an escort, even that made it different. As much as it was disgusting to me (and now I find out that is what is "normal" to him) I at least knew the deep rooted love affair was not there. I am not saying there wasn't an emotional attachment, because there was but not the kind that he would leave me for. He even said "never did I ever consider leaving the marriage" - WTH eh?
It is a VERY complex problem and I don't know if we will ever be able to get to the root of it. My H is 62 years old and pretty set in his ways.
GEL - by the way, he is still playing the "nothing happened" card, although he does at times seem a little uneasy
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
