This guy's wife seems like the ultimate DBer. I don't know her personally, but from what I've heard she has stuck with her husband in spite of him having a three-year affair, made all the "changes" he wanted her to make, and has put up with his yo-yoing even though the kids are grown and she's sucessful and competent enough to dump him.... but she really loves her husband and they have a long history together.
I think it's disrespectful of my friend to send this card.
What I probably should have done, was the moment I got the card, I should have blacked out my address, put hers on it, and sent it to her. But, unfortunately, I called her and asked her about it. What she explained is that the reason she didn't put her address on it was because she didn't want it coming back to her. She didn't want her current boyfriend to see it (oh yeah, just let my husband see it... oh, and if his wife happened to find it she might think I was having an affair with her husband and confront me! Great....).
The reason she doesn't want her current boyfriend to see it is because he thinks she has been "pure" during her divorce, and hasn't physically been with anyone besides her husband. (Little does this guy know she's been with EVERY guy she has met!!!!!). Apparently, the current boyfriend overheard a phone call between her and this former boyfriend, and my friend has convinced him they were just friends, nothing happened. I don't like that she's lying to this guy, but she's afraid he will leave her if he learns the truth.
Anyhow, at the time I spoke with her, I hadn't thought all this out and told her I'd drop off the card. But now, like I mentioned, I'm thinking I should shred it.... or maybe send it back to her, but she'd kill me because she specifically said she didn't want it coming back to her house. I'm definitely not going to deliver it. Then she'd think she could always use me to do this.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
