Just curious....what have you "said" to him when you've addressed the fact that you need HIM to initiate sex?
You didn't mention whether or not you've ever talked to him about this, so I'm really hoping that you have.
FWIW, after 12_51 asked about Whore/Madonna with your H...I'm not convinced he has that, so more info would be very helpful.
Oh and FWIW...sex 2-3 times per month, for many people is not a lack of sex, that is still a very regular sex life. There are many people who would prefer more, some who would prefer less....but that is still a regular sex life.
I want you to know though, this isn't about YOU. There are many of us women here who can sympathize with what it feels like to not have your man pursue you at all sexually....and it's excrutiating, but it's about HIM, not you....ok? I know how personal this feels to you and it hurts like hell, but I'll remind you again....it's nothing about how pretty you are, how sexy you are, how thin you are...none of that. This is about something going on inside him. Please remind yourself of that daily.
