The Oosalem bird is still flying around!

[TabD]

MM,
Good Day, I am back now. I have had other issues at hand, or on the front burner... so DB BB has been put on the back burner for a while.

Just read thru your post's and trying to catch up. I am so sorry that you have to go thru this confusion. But I agree with every... it is confusion and you have to GIVE HER SPACE... obey her wishes so to say. b/c DD will probably not, and end up being pushy. Let her see it from him and not you!

As for S, I think you shouldn't be at her beck and call on that one. Yes I love my D's, and I want to make sure I help out in EVERY way that I can, but sometimes you need to let W/H figure this out on their own. I know it hurts and it is VERY hard to do, but it is something that does have to be done.

the BREAK with DD. This is good, but don't read to much into it. she is confused and having fun and enjoying your presence around has probably caused more confusion within her than you can imagine. GIVE HER SPACE.

RANT and RAVE here all you want. we "listen"

[millymoose]

Thanks Tab

Major backslide today! After a good weekend when she text a lot and also when I was at the Belfry playing golf Sunday and Monday she sent a few pleasant texts.

Last night Sam went in big boys bed for first time!! and I put him to bed. She text this morning and said he stayed in it all night and what a lovely day it was. I then stupidly (please kick me!!) asked her to have lunch. She said she would love to but was trying not to see me personally only when Sam was around!

Talk about blow it!!!!!!!!!!!

[Grace_O]

MM,

You didn't blow it. Just back away from it and let it rest. Don't bring it up and if she does perhaphs you could say something that will keep it neutral. I know the feeling of having blown it. It really stinks and usually has that panic attached to it. Let it go. It was one event. Learn from it and don't go there again (at least for awhile).

[millymoose]

Well after my 'faux pas' yesterday morning, W sent a couple of spurious texts as she left work yesterday and we have had not contact at all today (Thursday)

I have found it soooooooo hard not to send even a 'how are you' text but managed.........right vent over

[Grace_O]

mm,

You call that venting? Come on you can do better ;).

[millymoose]

Well I think I may as well just give up on the W!!!

I was asked to take son out this morning so W could have a sleep as she has not been well.

When I returned a friend of ours was there and she had a new alert tone for the mobile phone that W asked me to set up for her.

Well I know I shouldn't have but I saw a text from DD saying 'lets have fun on Monday and make it a good'un'

It's clear that this 'break' is nothing of the sort and that she is still in regular contact with DD aside from working with him!

I feel so depressed about the whole thing and the fact that she is still lying!!

[Grace_O]

Of course she's lying.....she's breathing isn't she?

Remember you have to keep the expectaions to zero. This is a long ride and I'm not even to the top of the first drop (3 1/2 mo. post bomb). It's hard and it sux. I know that feeling of "stick a fork in me, I'm done". Let's face it though, we're not. I know I got a whole lotta fight left in me (in my good moments). Today isn't starting out on a good note, except I got in a 6 mile walk this morning. It helps me clear my head and plan things. People in my town must think I'm the crazy lady b/c I talk to myself when I walk. And you know what? Sometimes I cry the whole time. Fortunately there's not alot of traffic or anyone much to see me.

Have any plans for the weekend? I know you can come up with something good.