MLC with young personal trainer

[BeingMe]

Gosh! I am sorry with how your W reacted to your reaching out. It almost sounds like she is taunting you. I wonder if she knows how it would make a man feel when she is masturbating, but not wanting you to touch her. I guess she is not well known for her sensitivity. She could do it somewhere else .... really! I get so upset when women do that - it's like teasing. You are right in that sulking will do no good. It would've been better to have told her that you would go watch TV until she is finished, then left, asking her to let you know. Politely, of course.

Your W sounds like she is in her own little fantasy world. Is she hoping you would leave, making you the bad guy? How long does she think anyone would put up with this sort of behaviour. Are you paying for their little trip? I'm sorry, but if your W really loved her children, she would make every effort to work on her M, but instead, she is playing with fire. Her BF is no real friend, if you ask me.

Well, I didn't have much advice, but I hope things work out for you. At this point, maybe LRT might work, but you should play it really carefully. Don't give any ultimatums, but be polite, yet assertive in your boundaries. If she wants to masturbate, then it shouldn't be in your presence unless she wants you to participate, for example. If she wants to go on trips, then the family budget shouldn't have to pay for something that may lead to a PA. Still, ultimately, you have little control over your W, but you do have over how you react. Be the bigger person, and don't let her antics get to you. Set yourself a limit to how much you will tolerate, think about how you will respond, have a plan, then impliment it when the situation arises.

In the meantime, GAL, work on yourself, hang out with the kids, and have fun. Find some laughter in your life, despite your W's foolishness. Best revenge is a life well lived.