What I think I finally learned from this whole "D Bomb Process" was that I no longer felt like "me" or like a "woman" anymore. That's no one's fault but my own for allowing myself to buy into what I thought I should be doing or feeling -- I think we get the idea from society's view or what we think society's view is of a "mom." I felt like I needed to be a certain type of person to be a good mom. I didn't feel like "me" was good enough. Mom couldn't still like rock music or get wild in the bedroom, etc.
Glad I figured it out and this could be how your W feels, but I don't have an answer as to how to "help" her figure it out the way I did. I know I had completely lost any and all sense of self and needed a kick in the a$$ to finally figure out what made me happy and that actually was getting my "self" back and my R back w/ H. I didn't realize what I was missing out on and what was missing in my life was an adult R w/ my H instead of just being a mom.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
