Okay... I've got a strange dilemma here, I think I know what to do, but I want to hear other people's thoughts on what they'd do...
Yesterday I got a card in the mail. It came to my address because my very close friend used my address as her own. She sent this card to a former "boyfriend. "Apparently she mailed it to him at an incorrect PO box (maybe she doesn't even know the correct address, but put mine as the return address JUST so she could ask me to do this favor for her!!!.... grrrrr....).
Anyhow, this man had been separated from his wife and was going through a divorce when my friend (also going through divorce, and taking NONE of my DBing advice I might add) was "dating" him. This relationship lasted only about a month.
My friend moved out of the area and in the meantime this guy apparently stopped his divorce and went back with his wife to try and work on his marriage.
According to my friend this is a birthday card she wanted him to get because it's his birthday this month. When I called her about it, she asked me if I could drop it off at his work. Well.... my thoughts about this is I don't think it's appropriate for her to have any contact with him since they were physically involved and he's now back with his wife. I know if I tell her this she'll say they are only "friends" and she is currently involved with someone else so there's nothing more than friendship implied. Another thing, I don't like her using my address. I don't want this guy to have my address. He used to ask a lot of questions about me (this all occurred back when I was in divorce as well) and I really want nothing to do with him. I think he's creepy.
So.... I think I should just put the card in my shredder and forget about it. And if she asks about it at a later date, just say I forgot and lost it. The right thing would probably be to send it back to her, but I don't want to argue with her. She can be very difficult to deal with.. very pushy.
What would you do?
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