It's easy to say "just do it" but if the person that is LD is experiencing psychological problems like my H is, it is not as simple as judt "doing it"

I think there is a lot more going on in his W's head than just not felling like it, this has some very deep rooted issues attached to it.

It is particular hard to imagine that someone can't just "do it" when you are the HD partner. I know I don't particularly feel like it at times but if it was initiated, by either side, I would get into the mood for sure. However, if initiating it brings up anxiety, fear and a whole lot of other issues, that just makes the person draw back, not come closer. And then you are even further behind than you were to begin with

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)