25, I am purposely not telling any friends/family about this for two reasons:
1.) to shelter them from the hurt 2.) when/if things work out for us, I would prefer if they never knew this happened - I don't want them to have to work through their own forgiveness process
I have spoken with DB coach about this in the past, and she said that while it is very hard to hold this inside, it IS for the best if we do work things out. Then we're not dragging others into this mess...
So far I have been able to do this and feel okay that I can continue to do it. As far as I know, H has also not said anything to anyone.
Why stir things up with those around us if we don't need to? Just making H be accountable for his actions is not anywhere near a good enough reason to hurt other people or put them through this hell and then potentially put them through working to forgive us as well...
When this works out, I don't plan on ever telling anyone about it. Why would I if I don't need to?
If it doesn't work out and we are forced to explain it to others, I just have to pray that they will understand and appreciate our reasoning behind not telling them. I would rather do that than stir everything up now when my hope is that we will work through this.
I feel very good about this decision and have made peace with it. It's the right thing to do for me.
