I see that with my wife right now. Its like she is under a spell, and i can see that her ending her relationship with OM won't really change anything at this time.
I met with my IC yesterday, and he voiced regrets that she and I are not meeting for MC. He asked if I thought she would be open to it. I had to answer honestly, and say probably not.
I went ahead and told my wife what he said, and how i said she probably wouldn't be in to it. She laughed and said Yeah probably not a good idea right now.
Then later she said, "if you want me to go, i'll go." - i said its not really up to me.. Anyways, part of me feels like I should ask her to join me, another louder part of me says, just ignore it for now as she isn't in a place to get anything out of MC at this time.
As long as she is "in love", MC is just another attempt to make her feel things, which will simply increase her resolve that she doesn't feel anything. However, I think my IC is very good, and might be able to help her understand her own intimacy problems... What do you guys think? Should I wait until I hear some doubt from my wife concerning OM? Should I just go for it and have her join me? Or should I forget it all together until she suggests it?
