Think first..give your S the benefit of doubt

[RedHeadWife]

That's what I've been doing. Like I said, I've already sent cards that he should get right away. Also, I already sent our Anniversary card that says on the outside "don't open until May 14." I'm hoping that this will give him (a lot) of time to reflect -- we never really talked in depth about what happened w/ the D bomb, etc. We had a few conversations that made me finally feel comfortable about things -- such as his EA "friend" "has been taken care of." And he did say yes, we are going to be ok. I did say the night before he left that I was happy we had everything worked out before he left & he said he was too. I so saw the love shining in his eyes for me that night. I'm not expecting a "thank you" or any sort of apology, but I hope he either has thought about or at some point will think about what I've "put up w/" and all the effort I have put into making our M wonderful again. I certainly don't dwell on this, and if I never hear anything about it, I will just be happy that all is well and make sure that it continues that way even when he gets back. I don't ever want to forget the lessons I've learned!!