Well part of the problem as I see it is jealousy...but mostly because they thought (incorrectly) that I was the reason H was not contacting them anymore....when really it was H feeling pressured by them to move back "home" and accept their religion in place of the one he chose...they felt that I was holding him hostage I guess...
Anyway...I did let them know that H is welcome to make the long distance phone calls anytime he wants to...and actually I will ask him if he has called or wants to call...so it isn't me...also, I have always told them they are welcome to call anytime...I won't lie about whether he is here or not...so if he is here they can talk to him....things seem better now...they have even called and talked to me!...it is strange because I keep trying to remember what occurred about the time they stopped talking to me...it was before H and I broke up...His brother was in a car accident in Nov 1999 and remained in a coma until Feb 2000....after his release from the hospital I sent money and food to help them out...we did this for several months until he was strong enough to start looking for work...I got a few thank you's but for all the effort I went through I felt I was kicked in the gut when I needed them and was concerned for H's health (after we broke up I found out he had diabetes and was not treating it)....so anyway...bottom line is...things are better...and I will leave the past where it belongs...keep on keeping on...that is all we can do...
You and I sound a lot alike....it seems we have had to work on the same things....
