I'm too lazy/depressed/overwhelmed to post my sitch on my own post or to post it anew. So let me just ask you, (M in '81 and will be moving to Alaska to join H, taking d9 with me, after leaving d18 off at college--LOTS of changes coming), how is it all going?
I fear that my anger will ruin things, or that H's obliviousness to the hurt inflicted will make me insane (Gaslight movie, kwim?). So, I'm doing forgiveness stuff, reminding myself that I do have CHOICE and that d9 will benefit from being with her dad even if things don't totally pan out. She'll know him better...??
Are you okay? What would you do differently, if you had it to do over? (BTW, yes, I did play a role in our problems, and am still seeing that...but would never have left h and or kids, let alone for a f----- job/career advance...) SO, that's that. trying to stay solution focussed. But I realize that so much energy was spent on wanting to reconcile, then it happened. But only now am I wondering whether I want this much at all...wth??!! j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
