GEL, EXACTLY what I was thinking. I can not / will not continue to be a part of this cycle. Even if it means living a monastic life. It is so fundamentally unfair for BOTH of us to continue this way. I am just having a problem determining the method in which to approach the issue with her. I am assuming that she will be feeling "the need" sometime in the near future. (it having been nearly 5 months now) When the situationcomes up I suspect that I will simply, gently,yet fimly decline to participate. If asked why, there is my opening to gently explain how I feel. This I am sure will set off a fire storm of recriminations and blamestorming, but at this point I just don't care about any of that. MY NEED is to be sure that she understands how what she does is affecting me. I am just a little squeamish about broaching the subject of the "little blue pill" with her as I think this will be a MAJOR problem that will not be received well. Regardless of how I explain it she will turn it back on me I just know it.
