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jacqm,

is it pride on her part? wanting to make you pay? or not really caring to give in to you? what she's saying is, its too late for the two of you but that's not true to one who believes in the power of God in their life. Isn't it about time she puts her money where her belief is?

It's all of the above. It's very sad, such a stupid waste. Well I'm not giving up yet. I'm still soul searching, looking inward. I think I've been a bit wussyish for too long. Maybe need to make some changes that'll help me take back some control. I already have done 180's on begging, pleading, and crying, did that a long time ago. I've got a life outside of her. I suppose maybe I need to continue speaking out when she's cold to me. I'm doing it more and more, and at least she seems responsive. I just need better timing with it. Never at bedtime.

cj

has your W considered having her hormones checked? Any other possible medical conditions?

No, she's not the type to 1) admit there's something wrong with her, and 2) seek advice. and 3) take advice. No those three things are taboo in her family. It's much better to just ignore the problem, pretend you know everything and that nothing will work to change the sitch. They fear change like death. To admit one needs to change would be admitting they have things needing change. From my perspective it's really tough to deal with considering all that I've changed. Now I need to be fair about this because she has changed, ALOT, and I appreciate the changes she's made! I am really proud of her for breaking out at least a little of her parents cycle. The funny thing too is that her parents have a great R, she idolizes their M and it makes her sad that she does'nt have the same thing.

I was also wondering if there is any chance she would at least give you a bj? Maybe that would get her motor running, too. Would she possibly take care of you on the condition that you don't try to pleasure her unless she decides she wants you to?

I think that falls within the category of begging. Anyway, yes I have asked that very question under that same scenario, and no it's not going to happen. I even offered to take care of her, no strings attached, and no it's not going to happen either.

Frustrating is'nt it? Good thing the rest of my life is full, otherwise I think I'd find a cliff to jump off of. Our kid's are at an age that they really need us together. It's NOT a good time to be doing a D. So, I'll be hanging out, trying new things, never giving up, hoping, praying, and listening for further guidance.

Don't be feeling bad for me, I'm just venting here. My W does a lot of things for me, she really does take good care of me in all other aspects. Somethings gonna click, change is inevitable, and either way I'll end up faster, stronger and better.

God Bless,

COG