When I first began dating my gf she weighed 98 pounds (she is 5 foot tall). After dating for a few months and we started to let our skeletons out of the closet, she had stated that she had some minor bouts with bielema in the past and that her and food were always in constant struggle.
Even though she lived with three other girls at college, none of them were aware of her bingeing late at night. Once she moved in with me, I noticed that she would sometimes get up late at night and eat a bowl of cereal or grab a snack. Nothing I would consider out of the norm. For over two years of us living together, I really never saw her binge.
While we were dating, she did put on some weight. Over the past three or four months she has been dieting for the wedding she is going to be in. She is back down to around 100 pounds. However, a few nights ago, she made the comment that she needs to start sticking to her diet better because she has been eating quite a bit lately.
Two nights ago, she got home from work around 11pm and ate a bowl and a half of cereal (something she always does) plus a PB&J sandwich. No big deal! She also bought me some pop-tarts and said it was to replace some of the Oreo cookies she had eaten of mine. The next morning she stated that she got up in the middle of the night and ate two more PB&J sandwiches (she admitted that much, so I don't know if she ate more).
Yesterday, I went to get something out of the pantry and noticed that box of Oreos that I had bought didn't appear to be opened. I pulled the box down off the shelf and noticed that the back of the box was open (the part that was up against the wall). Keep in mind, that I never opened this box of Oreos and the box was still positioned the same way as the day I put them on the shelf months ago. It appeared to me that she had purposely opened the back of the box so I wouldn't have noticed that she had opened them. When I looked inside, 4 or the 10 sleeves of Oreos were gone. I don't know if she ate these all at one time or not.
Last night when she got home, she had her usual bowl and a half of cereal around 12:30 am, before she went to bed. At some point in the night she got up and had at least an entire box of mac & cheese and two pop-tarts.
I am really concerned about her. At first when we broke up, she was going out and getting drunk most nights and doing her best to avoid me. She also began smoking again (had quit 2 years ago) about the same time. While communication has gotten a lot better between us and she is no longer going out and getting drunk like she was, she has now turned to food. The fact that she eats very healthy and very little during the day around others and then eats all kinds of crap food late at night when nobody is around concerns me.
I know for a fact that she feels guilty about something and she feels that she cannot bring herself to tell me this information. She has told me this herself. Now, it appears she is trying to fill this guilt with something to make her feel better, but it doesn't seem to be working. A lot of the signs of depression are there.
I just don't know if I should be the one to step up and talk to her about these problems that I see. Should I be the one to let her know that it is OK to talk to to me and get everything off her chest.
