Part of the reason he is going to C is for his accident claim but he does acknowledge that he feels better sometimes when he talks to the C - so its got to be doing something (like you said). However, there was a time for a while when we first started going that he was still seeing the OW and pretending like he wasn't, and working on the M. Then I found out (through his cell bill) and once again I was devastated. Here I thought we were trying to repair the mess and he was just continuing on like nothing was happening. So you can see why I am leary about his visit to that city last Monday. I find it VERY hard to believe he didn't go see her, especially with several hours to kill for a person that paces at the best of times.
Whether or not I will approach the subject again before we go to the C, I don't know. I feel like I am side-stepping the issue sometimes when he is around. It was like he was going to talk about it last night at supper but then backed down. I will see what the atmosphere is like tonight. If it feels right, I will approach it, otherwise I will just let whatever needs to happen at the C tomorrow. I am sure I have the patience to wait until then if necessary. Of course there is always the possibility at the last minute he will say "I'm not going today, you go by yourself" and that will just throw a wrench into things but that's jumping the gun, I should just be patient here.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
