Hi Lin, After reading your H's childhood story the goosebumps and chivers down my spine are still there...This is sooo awful.
You know I sense your H always saw you as his anchor. The one who did incredible things for him like finding his brother and reuniting them with their mother. It must have been so painfull when he was being hurtful and mean to you after all the things you have been through together.
Supporting and cherishing a man who has dealt with so much in the early stages of his life where everything is supposed to be safe and loving is one of the most difficult things to do. I respect you for doing that. For making a terribly hurt soul feel safe and happy with you and give him a home and a family.
I know my husband always regarded me as his anchor. He told me and others on several occassions. Now I feel he needs to find out what happened to him during childhood and find himself. Also to wrestle with issues which have been there for a long while. (he suffered from several anxieties like claustrofobia, fear of flying etc.) I can't help him with this but I'm aching to see him hurt so much. I'm also very afraid he will not get out of this.
Thank you for sharing you story. It is a huge yourney for everyone involved. I'm happy Holly retrieved it for you! And I'm glad to hear you have healed yourself in such a way you don't cry about it anymore. You know what made me have a small bolt of hope inside? When I was reading about the two of you. When you said he moved to lived close by and you started seeing eachother again and things went quick from there on. My DH is showing signs of moving close by... His problems started in january '04. Started his affair in oct. '05 and left in june '06. OW is still there though...:( and he will be leaving the country shortly to live his dream for three months with OW... We'll see. But I'll keep checking up on you and your lovestory!!
