Well, my XW couldn't and still can't deal with her feelings and certainly can't express it. Sounds like yours might be in the same situation. So confused that D seems like the only option to get rid of the confusion. Hang in there. MC sounds like it would help her as well and help you both together.
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids