He is cocky, self-interested, and he is emotionally detached from you to such an extent that he does not even know it would matter if you were no longer in any way in his life.
Let him go AH. He is chasing a fantasy of a better life. Your H sees you as oppressive right now. Step WAY back. Do some GAL activities. Go out for a walk. Grieve all you want but keep moving, one foot in front of the other. I know this might sound mean and crazy, but picture the D he is seeking as a door opening wide for you for your future. Take plenty of space back from H as soon as the D is final. Arrange for transfers of S14 without needing to see your H yourself, for as long as possible. E-mail instead of phone for a while. Go through your L instead of direct contact. Give yourself more space to heal.
PL, I believe you have given me excellent advice here, and I hope I'm able to take it. You don't sound mean at all, but gently realistic. I believe you have my H pegged, too.
