man, you've got a tough one here. many things to consider.
after 4 times, that you know of, I doubt there is anything that could change her behavior, 4 times with no consequences, it would be very difficult to show her the need for change.
I understand you desire to keep the family whole and not have your kids experience a divorce. but kids watch their parents, they learn from you and your wife, do you really want your little girls think what mom is doing is ok, and then themselves doing it in their relationships?
what about you? how long to you want to be kept in a high risk situation for STDs? AIDS is real, and it doesn't just happen to the"other" guy. also, you deserve someone who respects you and treats you as such.
