Unfortunately killing the computer would be the only way to guarantee he wasn't going online. BUT (big BUT) if he has whore/madonna...he'll just get the fix elsewhere and still not turn to her unless he's treated how to deal with it...and taught to literally think differently about sex and his wife.
Putting the computer into an open place...won't do anything either. My H took every opportunity I wasn't around...to go online. He only got brave enough to go online when I was home...when I was sleeping...and that was just before he was discovered.
Anyway...Passionate, your H's background is very similar to the one that my H and Heywre's H had. No physical displays of affection between the parents, sex wasn't talked about, it was thought of as dirty...etc, etc, etc. So it is possible he has a version of it.
It seems to me that he'll go for it and not turn you down...but I'm sooooo familiar with what it's like to not have your H ever initiate, it just kills you doesn't it? My H is having to learn how to do that for me now (we will be married 4 years tomorrow). The frustrating thing is...you know you can have sex, but it's always up to you....and you know that if you wait for him to come to you and initiate....you'll wait until your hair turns grey.
So...you've been to a pastor, which IMPO...probably wouldn't have the tools to help someone with this (if he does in fact have this). The two counselors...simply may not have picked up on it if pertinent facts weren't given. I mean, until I made the discovery that I did about my H's online activity...I bought his lines (almost) that he just "never thought about sex".
Can I ask you to consider doing something? Put a keylogger on your computer. This will either clear him of getting his needs met elsewhere, OR it will give you a clearer picture of what exactly you are dealing with. If you need a recommendation for a good one I can give you one....my e-mail is also over on Heywre's thread.
