Heywyre... I hope so much for you. Your encouragement means more than you know.
I didn't even ask him when he was making the "exchange"... but he called as soon as he got away from her to let me know. She kept some of the things he'd bought... a grill... some ladders... claims he "took enough from her... he took her 'joy'." ARGH. Just let it be over please.
I only asked that he give us a chance and be true to himself before moving on with someone else. He has her in the same perspective that we do... she is nothing. It was not about me, most definitely not about her, it was about him. And he wasn't thinking right.
I didn't think he'd be able to transition into loving me again. But. OMG. He is so thankful that I didn't give up on him and PINING for me. It's amazing. He still claims that me showing up down there and the chance I took with the things he was saying and the phone he wasn't answering.... he is AMAZED that I did that and it just goes to show that when you do meet someone's needs--- the need to feel appreciated and that he really matters--- their heart can go back to when they loved you and honored you like no other.
This sounds so mushy. I know that. But the point is. I did a total 180. Waited until I KNEW I'd be okay... after GAL, and lots of changes and ego checks. I KNOW that I'll be okay, no matter what. I THOUGHT that he'd have to lose me (like I did )for him to feel the depth of emotion that I'm feeling.
I was wrong.
As we hash through everything, including a LOT of financial adversity, he just appreciates me more and sees the way I stand behind him and wants to hold me and take care of me and start making everything right. As I'm sincerely in shock that his feelings for me have come back so rapidly, he is sincerely shocked that I still love him.
I feel like I'm living a Lifetime Channel Movie that no one would believe.
